When Elvie is in the hospital, we see a lot of other parents there, staying with their children. At the hospital where Elvie is usually admitted, parents are given a special wristband to allow access to the floor where the children stay. In the elevator once, a dad of another child and I joked a little about it. “So you got in, too? Nice. It’s pretty exclusive.” Sometimes jokes are what you need when things aren’t going as you hoped in the hospital room. I know that there are a lot of you out there who have had a child in the hospital and are, like us, frequent visitors to the local children’s hospital. Some of you have commented on my posts and on our Facebook page. I know there are a lot more of you out there, and this post is for all of you. I want you to know that you are not alone.
When you’re up for half the night – or the whole night – because the machines are beeping constantly, and the nurses are in and out doing vital signs, and the roommate’s dad is a snorer – you are not alone.
When your child’s medical prognosis is different than you hoped, you are not alone.
When your hospital stay is longer than anticipated, you are not alone.
When you’re scared about the next surgery, even though you know your child will be in good hands, you are not alone.
When you’re frazzled because you forgot your toothbrush or clean underwear or another essential that helps you feel like a functional human being, you are not alone.
When you are struggling to get your child to gain weight, but they cannot eat because of the medications they are on, you are not alone.
When you eat enough for yourself and your child because the hospital cafeteria onion rings start to taste really good, you are not alone.
When you can’t eat because you are so worried, you are not alone.
When seeing your child in pain for one more day seems more than you can bear, you are not alone.
When your have to hold your child down for an unpleasant procedure, you are not alone.
When it gets hard, however it gets hard, you are not alone.
But when things get better? You are not alone then, either. We are all celebrating with you.
If you are a parent with a child who is in the hospital now or who will be in the hospital in the future, know that I think of you every day, and I wish for peace for your heart and for good people to surround you and help you. You are not alone, because you are always in my thoughts, always.