When Baby Prefers One Parent Over the Other

Without a doubt, my Baby Z prefers me over her father. Every. Single. Time. Forget “Daddy’s little girl”, she’s all mine. It warms my heart and touches my soul to know that my sweet little girl is so enamored by her mama. I love her every bit as much as she loves me. She wants to be around me all the time. All. The. Time. While it’s incredibly sweet, it can also be down right exhausting.


I can’t carry her all the time. As much as I would love to snuggle all day long, I have other children that need tending to and tasks to complete. I wait for my husband to come home from work to relieve me for a while I pull dinner together. Unfortunately, Z quickly tires of playing with Dad and heads right back to me in the kitchen. Bless his heart, my husband tries and tries to distract her, but Zaynab just isn’t interested in what he has to offer. You’re probably thinking, “well why doesn’t he just cook and you spend time with Z?” Bless his heart, the extent of his “cooking skills” starts and ends with a fried egg and toast.

Possibly the most difficult time when Zaynab refuses to be with my husband, is while flying. I don’t entirely blame her. I’m her comfort zone, her happy place. It’s hard enough to get comfortable in such a small and confined seat. Having to share that space with an active squirmy toddler is incredibly draining. The only time I get a break is if she falls asleep. Even then, she sleeps in my arms. Of course I can’t help but shower her with kisses until I eventually knock out myself from the exhaustion.

Don’t get me wrong, without my husband, I would have been lost without him during our recent travel mishap.

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel. When my second daughter was Zaynab’s age, she also preferred me over her dad, but not with as much intensity. Now, you can’t separate the two no matter how hard you tried. She only has eyes for Daddy. I’m not saying I don’t want Baby Z to want and need me anymore. I just simply wish she would distribute the love evenly amongst me and my husband. It’s only fair since he adores her as much as she adores me.


Does your baby prefer one parent over the other?

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