To Tell, Or Not To Tell?

When I was pregnant with my first child, I told everyone the name of our soon-to-be daughter, never thinking anything of it. It was a popular name (Taylor), and if anyone had an opinion or a problem with it, they certainly didn’t mention it. It was our first baby after all, so perhaps they were giving me a pass and politely withholding unnecessary comments and opinions to be nice.

We did the same with our second child, Sydney, which is also my husband’s middle name. Again, people kept any opinions they may have had to themselves, perhaps because they knew it was a family name.

But with baby #3, it seems that everyone has an opinion about the name — and they aren’t afraid to express it.

top 10 boy baby namesIn the last few years, I began to notice that a lot of friends weren’t telling anyone, even family members, what they were planning to name their babies before they were born.  For a long time, I thought it was a bit silly and wondered what the big secret was.

But now I totally get it!  Some people think they have every right to tell you their opinion when it comes to what you name your child! After experiencing this for the first time, I’m starting to think I’ll just keep my mouth shut for the next few weeks as we mull over names.  Of course, if asked for an opinion, you should give it, but otherwise, one’s lips should remain tightly sealed when discussing possible baby names, don’t you think?

In the last few weeks as we’ve contemplated names, most of which have been gender neutral since we’re not sure what we’re having, I’ve heard all ranges of comments, such as “that sounds like a mobster’s name,” “too Hollywood hipster,” “too girly,” and “too boyish.” The best was just a sour, puckered-up face with a dramatic head shake when I told a family member our latest and most favorite name, Hayden. She looked as if she’d just eaten a rotten egg.

After that latest experience, I declared to my husband, “Alright, that’s it! I’m not telling anyone anything anymore until this baby’s born!” I said it, and I’m sticking to it.

So did you announce your unborn child’s name in advance, or did you keep it a secret?  What were your reasons for doing either?

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