Giving birth is, hands down, one of the most difficult things a woman can ever go through. Even if you’ve had a baby before, every baby and every birth is different, so there is still an element of the unknown each and every time you do it. It can feel overwhelming and honestly a bit daunting — especially the first time around — but being equipped with some solid tools in your birthing tool kit can make a world of difference.
Positive affirmations can be a very helpful tool in your birthing experience. The power of saying something out loud has tremendous power over our thoughts and our beliefs about ourselves and situations, which is why positive birth affirmations were such a wonderful help in my own labors with my three little ones. Here are a few of my favorites that helped me during labor.
1. “I am strong and capable.”
This is the ultimate pep talk during labor. Telling yourself that you are strong and capable leads to believing that you actually are strong and capable. You’ve got this, mama.
2. “My baby knows exactly when and how to be born.”
Birth is the ultimate in unknown. Every baby and every birth is different — and for someone who likes to control everything (definitely raising my hand over here), it can be a challenge. This affirmation is a good reminder that no matter how your baby enters this world, it is going to be OK.
3. “My pain is progress.”
It can feel nearly impossible to not focus completely on the discomfort of labor, but this affirmation can serve as a reminder that those pains you are feeling aren’t for naught. They are a sign that you are making progress toward getting your baby into this world. Somehow, that makes it a bit more palatable.
4. “I can do anything for one minute.”
Contractions (typically) last about one minute. There will be moments when you will feel overwhelmed and like you just can’t do it anymore, but this affirmation was super helpful to me during labor. While labor and birth as a whole can feel daunting, pushing through one minute seems doable. Just keep telling yourself with each contraction that you can do anything for one minute.
5. “Relax. Breathe. Open.”
Being overly tense can be a deterrent to labor progress, as babies need your body to be relaxed and open in order to make their grand debut. Repeating “relax, breathe, open” might seem super simple, but it can be a very effective way to remind your body of the job it needs to do during labor.
6. “The only way out is through.”
Unfortunately, there will come a time when you just don’t think you can do it anymore. You’ll be tired and uncomfortable and you’ll feel like throwing in the towel, but no matter how your baby enters the world, the only way out is through. And you will come out on the other side stronger for having gone through this journey.
7. “Surrender and trust the process.”
Letting go — of expectations, control, being prim and proper — can be incredibly difficult, but it can also be one of the best tools you have in your birthing tool kit. Once you allow yourself to surrender to the process of birth, it becomes easier to let your body do its thing and bring your baby into the world.
8. “This will not last forever.”
It will feel like a never-ending process, but the good news is that it does not last forever. Remember this well.
9. “I will meet my baby soon.”
All of this hard work will soon be worth it and your precious babe will be in your arms! The very best motivation of all.
10. “I can do this.”
Short, sweet, and to the point. Sometimes this is all you need. Like The Little Engine That Could… “I know I can, I know I can, I know I can.” There will be moments when you don’t believe it, but keep on saying it until it rings true. You are stronger than you know — no matter how that baby enters the world. You are a rockstar mama!