A Parenting Dilemma


My mom has a good friend who refers to her husband as Tigger. He’s a guy that goes and goes and goes, and is enthusiastic about whatever it is he’s doing the whole time.

We have discussed that none of us are Tiggers, but we’re also not as easy to pin down.

At times, I’ve been Eeyore, Pooh, and even Piglet. Now that I’m a mom, I strive to be like Kanga — nurturing not just to my own little Roos, but to everyone in my life.

But sometimes, even when I’m doing my very best as my own version of Kanga, someone who is like Rabbit shows up, and he is worried about my parenting skills. Rabbit means well, but his delivery is a little gruff, and often he’s simply not right about the best way to do things. Here’s how I handle it when a “Rabbit” shows up to “help.”

First, I remember that Rabbit probably doesn’t know the whole story. He’s not the Kanga, so he’s not with my little Roos all day. There’s a lot he doesn’t know. It’s quite possible that Rabbit just saw something and thought that it was going to cause a problem, and he felt compelled to speak up. It’s just what Rabbit does. He can’t help himself.

Second, I remember that if I’m Kanga, then I’m going to have patience with Rabbit and be nurturing to him. Even if he’s terribly concerned about something, I don’t need to get upset about it. After all, I want to be a good example to my little Roos. Just because someone else is being a little testy doesn’t mean that we have to be that way, too.

Third, I remember that in every story, Rabbit either sees the error of his ways or just accepts that things are they way they are. In his heart, he loves his friends, even if they don’t always do things his version of the right way.

If I can just let go of whatever the Rabbit in my life is saying and give it time, things seem to work themselves out naturally. There’s no need to fuss; Rabbit will learn soon enough, all on his own. I just have to keep being Kanga, doing my best to take care of my little Roos.

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