Some days as a mother are just tough. As much as I love my daughter and love being her mommy, some days just aren’t always so magical. There are days when my child is grumpy and seems to have meltdowns at every turn and days when everything feels like a power struggle. There are days when I’m rushed and consumed with the zillion items on my to-do list and days when I am feeling exhausted and at the end of my rope. But, I’ve been learning something about these less than magical days lately…they still possess magical moments if we only take the time to look.
This week, my husband and I got back from our first child-free vacation. It was amazing and relaxing, but that first day coming back was rough. I had a list of things I needed to accomplish that felt a mile long – grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, etc. I was feeling overwhelmed to say the least and I knew the entire day would feel rushed. All I really wanted to do was cuddle up on the couch with my daughter and reconnect after being away from her, but I knew there were tasks to get done. So, I decided to look for moments to make some magic in our busy day.
But, how do you make errand running magical? Well, we started out by listening to her favorite songs and singing along during the car ride over. Then, once we were at the grocery store I let my daughter help me pick out produce. I let her smell things and place them in bags for me. I brought along little plastic animals and played with her as we roamed the aisles. We talked about the sights and the sounds and what we were going to have for dinner and about the fun things we would do after her nap. She helped me cross off items on my shopping list, even though it was really just scribbles, she felt so proud.
After our tasks were completed, I was honestly just feeling so ready to go home. I had more items on my to-do list and wanted to get to it. But, instead I decided to make a pit stop at the pet store next door. I immediately realized that I had made the right choice as I watched my daughters face light up with joy as she ran up and down the aisles saying hi to all the goldfish and guinea pigs. The giggles as she tried out dog beds and the pride splashed across her face as she chose a toy to bring home to our dog Marley confirmed that even though our day was a busy one, there was still some magic to be had.
The day was a great reminder that sometimes I may feel like I have “more important” things to do, but in reality there is nothing more important than making magical moments with my child. Taking pause in the day to really focus on her and find some magic together even in those days that don’t feel very magical. This is the childhood I want her to remember…a mama who took the time to slow down and really enjoy time with her.