Why I’m Deciding Not to Pierce My Daughter’s Ears (Despite Tradition)

My daughter is coming up to 9 months and my mamá has been asking when I’m going to get her ears pierced. Without realizing it, I have been avoiding the question — and more importantly, the actual ear piercing action.

But had you asked me before she was born if I was going to do this I would have said “por supuesto!” After all, I had mine pierced at 3 months and traditionally in Latin America babies leave the hospital with tiny studs in place.


But now, I’ve had a change of heart. I don’t feel like putting mi niña linda, my beautiful girl, through that pain — and frankly, I don’t know if I can handle it. It’s enough suffering for both of us when she gets her shots and she looks at me, screaming, with huge teardrops streaming down her face as if saying, “COMO ME HACES ESTO MAMI” / “HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME?”

And it kills me. My husband even asked, “Is it really necessary? Poor girl.”

Meanwhile, not just my mother, but even my family in Chile is asking when the big day will be. But I’ve done plenty of thinking and have come to the conclusion that for now, I am going to pass on it.

So, for the time being, I’m not sticking to tradition. Some in my family may not like that, but I don’t care. I can’t force myself to do something just because it’s expected and besides, I can’t bear to see her little face looking up at me in pain. Maybe in a few months I’ll change my mind — besides, I love how it looks, and I know the pain is only temporary. Right now, I have enough going on without adding more guilt to my life!

This also serves as a reminder that we always say we are going to do things a certain way before we have children, but that instantly changes once we do have kids.


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