At the start of 2014, I made three goals for the year. One was to spend more “alone time” with my husband. More dates, more conversations, more late nights dedicated to hanging out and spending time together instead of doing dishes or other chores around the house. With three kiddos, alone time is a rarity. From the time he gets home from work until we put our kids to bed, it’s busy, busy, busy! Our Chatty Kathy toddlers and our newborn babe fill our evenings. Both of us are plenty aware of how important time together is for our marriage and for our family. I once heard a saying that went something like, “happy parents = happy kids.” I’m sure there’s some truth to that. Margot is just now 3 months old, and I am proud to say that we’ve actually done a really good job of getting away for some “us” time. Here’s how we do it…
We hand off the big kids. Our older girls are just 2 and 3 years old, but are easy to leave with friends or family for a couple of hours. Plus, it’s good for them to spend time with their relatives (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.)
We bring the baby with us. You might think we’re crazy, but it’s really the only way we’re going to get a date night. She’s super laid-back and is pretty much happy 100% of the time, so it makes it easy to take her along. She’s also exclusively breastfed, so I can’t exactly leave her with someone else.
We babywear. A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I spent an entire day in Kansas City. We went to a festival, got lunch, then perused an art museum for a couple of hours before we got our favorite barbecue for dinner. I wore Margot the entire time in my favorite wrap and she slept soundly. I didn’t have to lug a heavy stroller around or worry about a carseat, either. It was perfect!
We go all out. I realize that taking baby along is fairly high risk. What if she cries? What if she has a blow-out? What if we have to leave early? What if she won’t sleep? Even when I’m nervous about what MIGHT happen, I have to go with my gut and hope for the best. Every time we’ve done this, she has been a PEACH! Last weekend, we had a “getaway” of sorts. We got a hotel room, went to a fancy restaurant, brunch the next morning, etc. I was pretty nervous about it all, but Margot did great and we had a blast. I’m so happy that we took the risk instead of just staying home.
So what about you? How do you make time to be alone with your partner? Do you dare bring baby along?