As her birthday approaches, I find many friends and family members asking about our plans to celebrate. Will there be a party? When are we having it? What’s the theme? The simple answer is: There will be no party.
Now don’t get me wrong; we plan to celebrate. How can anyone not celebrate such a special occasion? But the whole party thing—well, we decided against it this year. We decided to keep it low-key. We didn’t consult with our daughter about it, because she doesn’t care. She just wants cupcakes, love, and lots of fun. We simply had a discussion and realized that everything that comes with throwing a party wasn’t necessary this year.
I’m definitely not anti-party. I actually think parties are wonderful and kids have a blast when you throw them one. But I also don’t think parties are a necessity. I believe my kids can be just as happy (if not happier) without one, as long as they feel like their special day is being honored and celebrated by the people they love most. That’s really what it’s all about anyway.
So this year, the party won’t happen, and we are all cool with that. This year, she will celebrate with her friends at daycare over mini cupcakes. Later that day, she will get dressed up as Doc McStuffins and attend a Halloween Spectacular with her older brother. The day after, we will have a nice family dinner at home followed by gifts and a birthday cake.
Parties are pretty awesome, but I also think they are overrated. There will be years when we decide to throw our kids a party because it just feels right that year. But some years, the celebration will include just the four of us eating, laughing and have a magical time with each other. After all, birthdays aren’t only about parties. They are truly about celebrating, and there is always more than one way to have a celebration.