Ah, the mom funk. You know what I’m talking about: The exhausted feeling of constantly cleaning up spit up, washing and mixing bottles, searching for bibs, and doing laundry all day. I’ve definitely been there, realizing it’s been five days since I’ve changed out of my pajamas into real clothes, five days since I’ve done my hair or makeup, five days since I’ve felt alive or needed by anyone other than my baby. This leads me to feeling slightly sad and easily overwhelmed. I call this the mom funk.
But the good news is, you don’t have to stay in the mom funk. You can overcome it. Here are some ideas that could help you feel alive again!
Schedule a babysitter for a couple of hours so you can go to a spa and get a massage. I know it can be hard to spend money on yourself once you have a baby, but it’s totally worth it for your sanity. You need to relax somewhere without the distraction or interruption of your baby.
Head out for lunch with some fellow mommy friends. Listening to other moms talk about the areas where they are struggling as a mommy definitely helps me feel more normal. And it gives you an excuse to get out of the house.
Get outside! Even if it’s just playtime at the park. There’s something about breathing that fresh air outside that makes me feel more alive.
Start a blog. You’ve got to release that stress somehow, so why not write about it? And I think you’ll be surprised at how many other moms relate to what you’re saying.
Hit the gym. I know for me, the better I feel about my figure, the less likely I am to go into a depression. It never hurts to be in good shape. And it helps you to hold that baby as he or she grows and gets heavier!
Make it a point to actually get ready each day. I always feel better when I have makeup on and a cute outfit. So what if you’re just running up to Walmart to pick up milk? The more presentable you appear, the better you will feel.
Drink coffee. I always feel happier when I have some caffeine. It makes me more eager to return those calls I missed and to carry on conversations with my friends who I haven’t caught up with in a while. And if you really want a challenge, drink the entire cup before it gets cold! ;)
Throw a date night into your calendar. Remind yourself why you had a baby in the first place. Don’t neglect your spouse. Their support is a huge part of your emotional stability, so make them a priority.
Lastly, try not to overwhelm yourself with too many tasks in one day. Don’t set yourself up for failure by expecting too much of yourself. Be realistic and set your to do list in priority order so if a few of the last things don’t get done it’s no big deal.
I know how redundant it can seem when you are a mommy to a baby, especially if you are a stay-at-home mommy. But there is hope! You just have to change up your routine a little bit and be intentional about your days. That mom funk doesn’t have to last. It’s all up to you!