5 Lessons I’ve Learned Since Having a Girl

When I first found out I was pregnant in 2009, I just knew I was having a boy. I’m not sure why, but let’s just call it mother’s intuition. I was right. Nine months later, a precious little boy entered our lives and things have never been the same.

Fast forward a couple of years and I became pregnant again. This time I just wasn’t sure about the gender. My intuition was failing me. Most people thought I wanted a girl, but I truly had no preference. I just wanted a healthy child. But when I dug deep down inside, I realized that having a girl made me nervous. It wasn’t that I didn’t want a girl. It was more so I wasn’t sure how I would parent a girl. I know it seems odd.

Growing up, I was a bit of a tomboy. I hung out with boys with ease, and I don’t think I started dressing like a girl until my sophomore year in college. In addition to that, my relationship with my mom is not always rosy, although we surely love each other deeply.

So now I have this beautiful little girl in my life, and the lessons I’ve learn astound me. Our relationship is magical, her love sustains me, and my fears about having a girl have vanished into thin air.


Here are 5 lessons I’ve learned since I had my baby girl. They are lesson you can learn from a boy, I suppose, but something makes them hit home because Jada is a girl, and her strong will and strength inspire me.

  1. Laugh at yourself more. I know that most babies are full of laughter, but I have to say that Jada laughs a lot. Sometimes I know exactly what she’s laughing about, and sometimes I have no clue. Having her in my life has shown me that life is a lot sweeter (and a lot more manageable) if we all just laugh a whole lot more. She reminds me that one of the most beautiful things about a woman can be her ability to laugh at herself.
  2. Be yourself. She plays with superheroes, crashes trucks, and is fascinated by Buzz Lightyear and Minnie Mouse. Jada has served as wonderful reminder that being yourself is exactly who you should be—nothing else. She marches to the beat of her own drum, and I get the feeling that she will never make any apologies for that.
  3. Stay strong. I have never seen a child who can handle a fall or a bump like my Jada bear. She cries for two second, brushes it off, and moves on to the next thing. Talk about a lesson in resiliency. Jada is one tough cookie.
  4. Dream big. It doesn’t matter what Jada sees her brother doing, she is absolutely convinced that she can do it too. My little girl has incredibly big dreams and she tries her best to reach them. I hope she never loses that desire to reach her dreams, because seeing that quality in her reminds me to keep reaching for mine.
  5. Never give up. My little girl is persistent. There is no doubt about that. It takes a whole lot for her to give up on something. And she doesn’t get frustrated either. Seeing that quality develop in her reminds that even when things get tough, I must stay the course. It’s the only way to live.
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