Growing up, my father was not a major part of my life. He was around but, unfortunately, our relationship wasn’t very meaningful, especially after his relationship with my mom ended. Thankfully, my mom’s love provided what I needed to become a happy, well-adjusted adult, and the men in my life (two uncles in particular) filled the void. I will forever be grateful for that.
I always vowed that I would get married and keep my family unit together. I wanted my kids to have a different experience with their dad than I did with mine. Luckily, I have married this amazing guy, and he is turning out to be a phenomenal dad to our kids. He provides them with the love and attention that every child craves and deserves from their father. He makes them laugh, teaches them so much, and adds joy to their lives daily. Indeed, I am thankful every day for the man he is.
My 20-month-old daughter looks exactly like my husband. You can’t help but smile when you see them side by side. The cheeks, the smile, and the way their eyes light up when they are happy – they are alike in so many ways. And with their similarities comes a bond like no other. Jada loves spending time with her dad, often preferring his embrace over mine. It never hurts me, but makes me smile, because I have always wanted to see my daughter have that kind of bond with her dad. It warms my heart.
And as their relationship continues to evolve, I know he will teach her so much. He wants to protect her from so many things in an effort to help her create a beautiful life. I admire him for that. I watch what he is teaching her, not just by his interactions with her, but by the way he treats me in her presence. I think he is setting her up for some pretty important lessons that are best learned from a father. Here are five of them:
- Always know your worth.
- Never settle.
- You can do anything.
- You are stronger than you think.
- You are beautiful just the way you are.