When I was pregnant with my daughter, my husband and I discussed our timeline for having future children. At the time, we both kind of decided that her first birthday would be a good time to start trying for baby #2.
Well, Fern’s first birthday has come and gone and now that she’s 15 months old, I’m realizing that if we want our children to be close in age, we should probably start thinking about our plans for the next one. I don’t want to make a decision based on an arbitrary timeline of course, but I’m also not sure I’ll ever feel fully “ready” to have another baby (I didn’t the first time around), so I’m not sure the “when” really matters all that much.
So I’m making a list of pros and cons, and finding that there really are quite a few good reasons to have another baby! Here are some of them.
12 Feel Good Reasons To Have Another Baby
While these may not be the best reasons for having another child, they are definitely some feel-good reasons for having another!
1. Giving our daughter a best friend for life
I know there are times when siblings don’t get along, but hopefully having a second child will provide our daughter with a best friendship that is deeper than any other.
2. Breaking out the tiny baby clothes again
It’ll be so fun to reminisce about seeing these teeny clothes on our daughter and seeing how different they look on a new baby.
3. Having an easier labor
Obviously each pregnancy and labor is unpredictable and thus you can’t be guaranteed that the labor for a second child will necessarily be any easier, but in general that seems to be the consensus, so I’ll be looking forward to that.
4. Knowledge is power
Aside from a hopefully easier labor, I will also be much less anxious about birth the next time around having already experienced and knowing that my body is strong and capable of getting through it. The next time around I won’t just “think” I can do it, I’ll “know” I can.
5. More confidence
As a first time parent you always wonder if you’re doing things right and you worry over every weird rash or tiny cough, but the next time around I’ll know more what to expect so I’ll enjoy it a little more and worry a little less.
6. Having mama skills
I will be the first to admit that I was definitely floundering during my early days of motherhood with our first child. I didn’t even know how to change a diaper and I seriously knew NOTHING about babies. Next time around I’ll know how to change a diaper, how to do bath time and all the essentials, which will make things much less daunting.
7. Getting to pick out another baby name
Let’s be honest, getting to pick out a baby name is kind of one of the best parts of pregnancy and I can’t wait to do it again. I LOVE baby names!
8. Newfound appreciation for the fleeting
For the first part of my daughter’s life I remember just hoping and praying for the next stage to hurry up and come along, because the next stage would surely be easier. Now I realize that there are pros and cons to every stage, so it’s never really “easier”, just different. Because of this, I think I’ll try to stop and soak up the little moments a bit more the next time around. Everyone always tells you how quickly the time flies by, but you never truly understand how true it is until you’re in it yourself.
9. Having all the gear
When you’ve never had a baby before, you quickly realize just how much baby gear you don’t have. The next time around we’ll have all the gear we need and know from experience what things we actually need instead of experiencing baby gear overload.
10. Meeting for the first time
I can’t wait to experience that feeling of meeting my new baby all over again – there is nothing like it in the world. But, even more special will be getting to experience what it’s like to see our first child meeting our second child and the very thought of this prospect makes me giddy with excitement.
11. Seeing your partner in "new parent mode"
Seeing my husband in “new daddy mode” was one of the sweetest things. He was so nurturing and I fell even more in love with him as I got to witness him caring for me and our new child and it’s something I will definitely be looking forward to with our next child.
12. The new baby-ness
Sweet little baby cries and the amazing “new baby smell” are things I am looking forward to with our next baby and I fully intend to soak them up.