If you’re familiar with my site, you know that I became a mom earlier than I expected to. Earlier than anyone expected me to. I was (am) an ambitious go-getter of a young woman, my eyes set on the top, and I was under the impression that becoming a mother would stall my life — professionally, personally, romantically. How could I pursue my professional goals? How can I continue to develop as an adult without those all-important “finding yourself” years all to myself? And would my young relationship survive this curve ball?
As it turns out, I can and it will.
Not only that, but my life has reached professional and personal heights that I never imagined in my pre-mom life. The best thing that ever happened to me was becoming a mother.
I’m a better person because of it.
Here are 10 (of the many) reasons I’m personally grateful to be a mom:
It gave me a purpose
I often wonder, “would I be this grown up had I not had a reason to grow up?” There’s no better reason to become the person you’ve always wanted to be than those two little eyes watching your every move, absorbing your words and actions as their normal.
I can be myself
My homebody personality is so much more suited as a mother than a party-hopping 20-something.
I can see life through a new perspective
Children have a way of making life seem as simple as it really is. It’s easy to get caught up in the little annoyances that can feel so big to an adult — but life doesn’t have to be that complicated. And I’ll always be grateful to remember what things look like and feel like from the
perspective of a newcomer.
I have a new respect and understanding for my body
For the very first time since I was a pre-body-conscious child, I listened to my body during pregnancy. And then after I saw the way my body morphed and primitively took control — after I saw its tremendous physical capabilities and resilience during labor — I finally, FINALLY, respected it. I’m grateful for the new relationship I have with my body.
Refocused goals and refueled ambition
There’s something about becoming a mother that makes you reevaluate what’s really important in life, and it can even encourage women to do more with their lives — to be more creative or more helpful. I’m grateful for this perspective.
I can share my accomplishments
There’s something to be said for watching your parents go from Point A (an idea) to Point B (a success), as well as the process in between. I’m grateful that my son can watch me build a life from the ground up, and for him to be an important part of the process.
It encouraged me to take risks
Some parents might take the safer route with kids in tow, but there’s been no greater motivator for me to pursue my goals. I want to teach my son that if you work really hard, and if you dream really big, you can love what you do. So that’s the example I choose to live.
It taught me to trust in Life.
Being thrust on a new, foreign life path can feel disorienting and discouraging, but I’ve learned that there are things — wonderful things — up ahead that you can’t see. I questioned the fairness in the universe when I got pregnant, but I found my way back to a place of trust and contentment.
The kisses. Oh, those kisses.
And that’s something I’ll always be grateful for.