When Baby Moves Out

It’s been a couple of weeks since my baby girl moved out.

Out of our room that is. We’ve been a co-sleeping family with both of our littles, up until around 12 months of age. Not for any reason other than it just didn’t work for us anymore.

I’ve never been one to prescribe to any one method of parenting, so while we may favour many parts of Attachment Parenting, we aren’t die hards. We do what works best for our family. For our children.

Sharing a Room With Her Bro

Co-sleeping was one of those things that worked. Basically until the night feedings stopped and our little ones were starting to sleep through the night. Abby has been a much better sleeper than her brother. With him we had some challenges in getting him to sleep through the night and it took about 2 weeks of ‘gentle extinction’, many tears (never the cry-it-out method though, just not for us) to get into a routine.

The thing with routine and babies and toddlers? Just when you think you have a good thing going, the rug gets pulled out from underneath you. So, while Abby may be sleeping through the night (save some rough nights of teething), we know this could change. The key is knowing and accepting the potential of such change.

I was reluctant to let Abby move out for a couple of reasons. One was that it meant she is getting more independent. We are moving out of the baby stage into the toddler stage. Gone are the days of my tiny, clinging newborn. Big Sigh.

It also meant that she would be sharing a room (next to ours) with her brother. This being the only option as the other two bedroom in our home are downstairs. Being on a different floor than ones littles is not a good idea, what with potty-training on the horizon and the sheer need that they have to be close to us.

We leave the bedroom door open a crack at night so that Wyndham is free to come in and out when he has a bad dream or early in the morning when he comes into our room to snuggle with us. (I love my morning snuggles with him). Surely, once Abby is walking and out of the crib, she’ll follow suit.

So how did it go? Rather smoothly.

I was worried that Wyndham would cause a ruckus, testing the rules of having to be quiet, and wake his sister constantly. I should have given him more credit. With the exception of a couple of times, our young lad has shown us his stellar ability to respect their shared space and the rules about bedtime.

It’s all rather quite adorable the way he whisper-talks and quietly sings or talks himself to sleep. He used to let it rip, which we let him do - because really, who am I to stop a toddler from singing his little heart out? It never lasted long and it was his thing. He’d go through all of the songs he knew, each one getting quieter and quieter. I feel kind of bad for taking this away from him, but he’s adjusted beautifully to only singing softly now.

This is a good thing, I think. The evolution of self-soothing and learning about respect and compassion for others. All good stuff, right?

P.S. The above picture is but a tiny wee glimpse into their shared room. I’ve worked on it in stages, from the wall art, to the decor, to the shelving and bookshelves. I look forward to sharing some before and after pics as well as some D.I.Y.’s on how you can tackle some of the same projects for your little one’s bedroom or nursery!

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Selena is a crafty, culinary mom. Creative Director. Social Media & Branding Consultant. Part-time big-mouth & frequent foot-eater. Daily Babble.com contributor. Proud of her Anishinaabe roots.

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