There are some things I know my husband just does better than I do when it comes to parenting. The reverse can also be said. I’m a believer, though, that you can usually learn from others. Instead of feeling like I am not good enough in those areas, I try to learn from my husband and incorporate some of his ways into my parenting. I observe, ask him questions when I see he gets better results than I do, and try some of his methods in future situations. Overall, there are three major things I’ve learned (thus far) about parenting from my husband.
3 Things I Learned From My Husband About Parenting
My husband is ten times better than I am at creative play. He can come up with silly, fun games on the spot. The kids love playing along and adding to the games with their own ideas. Imagination is truly his forte. On the other hand, I tend to do better when games come with instructions and find it hard to create my own. But, after observing him, I’ve learned a thing or two and find myself being silly from time to time – no instructions needed.
I tend to be one to adhere to the routine, plans, schedules, and lists. They make my world organized and the chaos in my brain seems less when I have a list to follow. While that works for business, it often doesn’t work in parenting. There are so many times that you have to let go of plans and quickly shift to accommodate unexpected events. My husband isn’t thrown off so easily by a change in plans, so from him, I’ve definitely learned to relax more and go with the flow.
Let go of guilt!
For a lot of women, guilt and parenting can be pretty synonymous. We feel guilty that we don’t spend enough time with the kids, guilty that we didn’t clean up around the house, guilty that we yelled – the list can go on and on. It can sometimes be a no-win situation since we may feel better about one situation, only to feel guilty about another. But, it’s very seldom that my husband feels guilty in parenting. I’ve even asked him if he felt guilty after certain situations and his response is usually along the lines of “Why should I feel guilty?” From him I’ve learned that though I may regret words I said, or how I handled a situation, there’s no need to feel guilty. I just have to move on and keep going forward.
What has your partner taught you about parenting?