Different, But the Same; A Tale of 3 Births
It’s hard to believe that it’s been six weeks since I gave birth to our third child, and as I wrote out my full birth story today, what struck me the most was how different each birth was, but also how very much the same each one was. One was by way of induction with heavy doses of pitocin and an epidural to help along the way, one was fast and furious, and one was slow, painful and drug-free. Each one had the same end result though, a beautiful baby to love. Here are some of the striking similarities I noticed in each birth, even though they were each so different.
- No matter if you are delivering via C-Section, vaginally, with pain medication or without, there will be a level of fear and excitement. You will undoubtedly be a bundle of nerves.
- There will be that moment, however brief, when you realize, “Oh my gosh! This is really happening!” Months and months of carrying baby in your belly, and the time has finally come. It’s a huge dose of reality when you realize that now is the time.
- You will have that moment, again, perhaps just briefly, where you do indeed get mad or irritated with your partner. He or she might say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing, or in my case during this last delivery, not do anything, where you just get mad. That’s okay, ride through it and once baby is born all those moments of irritation will be swept quickly under the rug.
- You will wonder how you’re going to look in pictures. Yes, it may be vain, but I had fleeting thoughts throughout all three deliveries, wondering just how bad my hair looked or how much my mascara had ran. Of course now that I look at the pictures I see my smeary mascara face as a badge of honor; proof that I had fought a good hard fight and won, with a beautiful baby as my prize.
- You will cry the first time you see and hold your baby. That feeling never, ever gets old and never gets any less special.
- While in the hospital, your mama bear instincts will immediately kick in, throwing a glare at the nurses and doctors each time they have to take a prick of blood or wake up your precious baby to check his/her temperature, and remind everyone to wash their hands before they hold the baby.
- You will have battle wounds. Your body will never quite be the same and recovery will be painful. But you will carry those battle wounds proudly, and have stories to share and memories to hold onto from each and every one.
- What were some of the things you noticed were the same and different about each of your births?