New Year, New Mom: Rethinking Resolutions

I love writing New Year’s resolutions. It’s the time of year where I really get to stop and take stock of my life: where I’ve been for the last year and where I’m heading in the new year ahead. 2013 was a transformative year for me: I went from wife to mom and no matter what, from 2013 onward, I will always be a mom. As we forge ahead into 2014, my role as a mother will forever factor into the way I live my life. So it only makes sense that being a mom shapes how I think about creating goals and resolutions for myself from here on out.

I could just stick to the same old New Year’s goals that everyone has: lose weight, eat better, yadda yadda. But motherhood has put even the most mundane of New Year’s resolutions into a whole new light. Here are my new New Year’s resolutions – my goals with soul – for my life as a mom.

  • New Year's Goals with Soul

    New Year's Goals with Soul

    It’s really important to pay attention to how we talk to ourselves about ourselves. Even something as simple as writing New Year’s resolutions can reveal a lot about how you view yourself, and if you learn to talk kindly to yourself about yourself, you’ll find you’re bound to take a more positive approach on life in general.

  • Get Moving

    Get Moving

    Could I stand to lose some weight? My doctor and jeans size says yes, yes I could. But with an infant, it’s not about trying to reach a beauty ideal; it’s more important to not only find but make time to get fit. I want to be as fit as I can – at whatever weight that might be – so I can be as strong as possible to take care of my son.

  • Eat Well

    Eat Well

    I don’t think I’ve ever eaten as much drive-through or take out as I have since becoming a mom. Is it convenient? Totally! Is it good for me? Probably not so much. Instead of trying to eat better, I need to eat well: less dining out and more cooking in.

  • Date Nights

    Date Nights

    Fact: parenting is stressful! This is hardly a surprise or a shock to any parent reading this. Sometimes yes, the stress results in really, really dumb fights about really, really dumb things. Solution? Making date nights with my husband a regular and frequent occurrence instead of a random rarity.

  • Own My Time

    Own My Time

    Judah is a remarkable child in that he sleeps a lot later compared to babies his age; he doesn’t usually wake until 7:30 or 8 some mornings. I take this opportunity to sleep in. Could I get up earlier? Yes. But it’s more important as a work-at-home mom that regardless of when I wake up, I make full use of my time to get as much work done as I can.

  • Happy Home

    Happy Home

    I really, really need to let go of the notion that I can have an infant and a clean house simultaneously. Will I live in a pigsty in 2014? Of course not! But I’m not going to force an expectation of white glove cleanliness and learn to roll with the clutter more easily than I do now.

  • Be Present

    Be Present

    So, confession: I am notoriously tardy. Now that I have an infant, I pretty much have to add an extra 45 minutes to any time I need to leave the house, easily. But sometimes I just need to be late if that means being present in the moment with my son; babyhood does not last long and I want to savor every second that I can.

  • Self Care

    Self Care

    Stress is an inevitable part of parenting. Instead of telling myself to just relax all the time, I can be more proactive about engaging in regular self-care, whether it’s meditation, a quick walk, or a monthly massage. There’s nothing selfish about taking care of yourself.

  • Judah's Mom

    Judah's Mom

    I could be the work-at-home SuperMom with the spotless house who makes dinner every night and runs off to her mom’s groups and playdates and baby yoga… and I could probably exhaust myself trying. Instead of trying to do it all, I’ll do my best for Judah, however little or much that means.

    I don’t have to be The Best Mom – I just have to be the best mom I can be for Judah, and that’s what matters most.

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