When my daughter was just one week old, I sat at my desk while she nursed and wrote the story of her birth. The words I wrote were special, but the simple act of writing it with her in my arms is one of my favorite memories.
For many women, writing a baby’s birth story is an important part of one of the most significant experiences in their lives. Birth stories convey the not-to-be-forgotten details and feelings of the day, and often become cherished keepsakes.
If you’ve never written one before, it can be hard to know where to start.
I’ve outlined how to preserve your memories of your child’s birth. And remember, this is not a paper that will ever receive a grade! There is no right or wrong approach— only tools to take the guesswork out of the process.
Reflect on Your Pregnancy
If you kept a pregnancy journal, scrapbook or wrote in a blog during your pregnancy, start there. Read over what you’ve written to get yourself in the right frame of mind, and to remember all of the emotions leading up to the big day.
Jot down the following details as you brainstorm your day:
- Was your delivery planned or did you go into labor on your own?
- Where did you deliver (at home, in a birthing center, in a hospital)?
- What were your feelings when you arrived at the location of birth?
- Did you deliver without meds or did you have an epidural?
- How long were you in labor?
- What were your thoughts when you knew the baby was on its way?
- Who was present at the birth?
- What was your first thought when you saw your child?
- How did your partner and other family members react?
Recall Special Memories
Did the experience go as planned? Were there any surprises? What were your feelings after the birth?
It’s important to remember that this is your record of your unique experience. You don’t have to be an award-winning author to write a birth story that’s worthy of documenting. This is, after all, the story of your child’s birth. No matter how you decide to approach it, your child will appreciate that you took the time to savor the moment when he or she came into the world.
Mary Lauren Weimer is a social worker turned mother turned writer. Her blog, My 3 Little Birds, encourages moms to put down the baby books for a moment and tell their own stories. She writes about all things toddler at Babble’s Toddler Times. Connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.
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