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9 Reasons Why Having Children with a Big Age Gap Is the Best
During my pregnancy with my littlest I discovered this strange phenomenon. While most people were genuinely excited for me there were a handful of people who actually felt slightly sorry for me. Not because I was struggling to keep my food down and ridden with dizzy spells but because I was “starting all over.”
And the truth be told I have kind of bought into that. To this day, when people ask me how old my children are I quickly throw in the fact that I “started all over.” Because what else do people say to a woman with a 9 year old and a 1 year old?
But the reality is I didn’t start all over. And to say that would suggest that I feel like I’ve moved backwards when what I’ve done is far from that.
The amount of time that passes in between blessings doesn’t lessen their value.
21 months in and I’ve got to say I wouldn’t have it any other way. Life with a big kid and a little kid is sort of awesome. And that’s putting it mildly. It’s the best of both worlds and for me – each day is a chance to move forward and onward with three of my favorite people.
For those who you are having a baby years after the first, I’m here to tell you that despite the fact that you may have moments where you feel like you’re starting over you’re not. What you are; however, is wiser, perhaps more self aware and definitely blessed. Motherhood is beautiful no matter when it comes.
And our babies – they fit perfectly into our lives and hearts no matter when they arrive.
I know because once upon a time I couldn’t imagine navigating life with a baby and an elementary school student. Now I couldn’t imagine not.
Before I leave you I wanted to share with you some of the reasons why having kids with a big age gap is the best.
1. A deeper appreciation – In hindsight you know how fast babies grow. Which means you are likely to make even more of an effort to dance in the magic of the baby stage. You know that in the blink of an eye the sleepless nights and engorged breasts will be a faint memory. This is your second chance to enjoy all things baby.
2. A strong relationship with your oldest – You and your oldest child have been going strong for some time now. They know how much you love them and are able to understand that a new baby doesn’t mean you will love them any less. As a result rather than fighting or acting out for attention they are right alongside you making memories with their new sibling.
3. A chance to rest before the baby comes – Everyone tells you to rest before the baby comes. And yes, that’s hard to do. But it’s a lot easier to do when you have a child who is sleeping through the night and capable of fixing their cereal in the morning, while you are in the bathroom succumbing to morning sickness.
4. Shopping! – Baby gear has changed significantly in the past few years. As it would turn out shopping for baby stuff was a lot of fun the second time around. Since I had donated and gave away just about everything, with the exception of a couple clothing items I got to do plenty of it. Tiny little baby clothes – yes please!
5. Less to carry – Traveling or even leaving the house for a quick trip isn’t as daunting. It takes us less time to prepare to leave the house because we don’t have to pack as much. We have one stroller, one diaper bag/backpack and since my oldest outgrew the booster, one car seat. If our oldest wants to bring a book, toy or a a drink or snack it fits into my purse easily or she just brings her own purse.
6. A Helper – My oldest loves to help take care of her baby sister, which has been such a gift. Not only does it strengthen their relationship but it makes car rides and dinner preparation a lot easier.
7. You’re wiser – I’ve grown and matured a lot over the past several years and with that comes an ability to look at parenting a lot differently than I used to. The new mom version 2.0 is much more confident and able to trust herself (and her spouse).
8. Seeing the values you’ve instilled in your older child come to life – I look at how my oldest dotes on her sister. How gentle and kind and loving she is with her. Although I know that has a lot to do with who she is, I also know that the way I parent her and the example I have set for her plays a role in that.
9. Able to put things into perspective – You’ve spent the last few years helping with homework, volunteering at field trips, searching for sweaters in the lost and found bin and listening to your kid share with you why their best friend isn’t their best friend anymore. Potty training will be a piece of cake.
Mamas with a big kid and a little kid at home, what are some of the reasons you love having children with a large age gap?
p.s. If you’re still slightly doubtful that your big and little can be quite close despite not being close in age it can happen. Just look.