The other night, I snuggled with my little girl on the rocker as she fell asleep in my arms. I placed her in her crib, feeling so grateful for that moment. Two days later, I went to sleep early hoping I could wake up at 5am to get a run in, but Jada woke up about 6 times that night. Having the energy to run at dawn just wasn’t going to happen. But that’s what motherhood is about, right? Taking the good with the not-so-good, knowing that ultimately, the good always outweighs the tough stuff.
My children have turned me into a kinder, gentler, more patient person, and I honestly believe the tough days have played a major role in my growth. Having two kids under the age of four forces me to see the world through curious lenses and I learn so much whenever I am with them. Their laughter can make the simplest moments magical, and even their cries can give me a chance to pause and reflect (sometimes).
When I look at the last few years I can say that I’ve truly learned that being a mom comes with its share of tough moments. Unexpected things often happen, and we try our best to make the best of it. We make mistakes, and we find ourselves replaying moments in our minds, wondering where we went wrong and how we can fix things. And we do all of this, because we love our kids more than anything on this earth.
When Jada gets a cold, I wonder if I exposed her to germs by not being careful enough. When she wakes up throughout the night, I wonder if I fed her something to upset her tummy. When she falls and bumps her head, I blame myself for not being quick enough to prevent her fall. Logically, I know I can’t prevent her from ever being hurt, but in my role as a mother, logic often escapes me.
In the tough moments, though, I think we forget a few important things that can help us experience the moment differently and really put things in perspective. Those tough days are what make us awesome moms, and they can end up being some of the most magical days of motherhood. The next time I face a tough day (which will probably be tomorrow), I plan to keep these things in mind. Let me know what you think, and please share how you make the best out of motherhood when things get tough.
Messing up is what makes you a great mom. We all mess up. It’s part of the experience and it’s how we learn to do things better the next time around. If you feel like you’ve messed up, you have to remember that you probably just became a better mom because of it.
Your little one is far more forgiving than you are. If we were as kind to ourselves as our little ones are to us, there would not be any tough days. It doesn’t matter what you did wrong, your precious little baby forgives you.
Hugs really can fix almost anything. Enough said. Now go get a hug.
Naps are absolutely amazing. I know it can be almost impossible to get a nap in, but we have to try when we can. Sometimes the extra rest is worth leaving a chore (or four) undone.
Kids are more likely to remember the good stuff. Years from now, our munchkins won’t remember those little moments that might seem awful. They will remember he hugs and laughs and kisses. I’m sure of it.
Looking ahead works wonders. Today is done and tomorrow is fresh start. If today was a rough day, thinking about tomorrow sounds like a great idea to me.
Treat yourself the way you want your baby treated. As moms, we need to take the same love and kindness that we have for our children and use it towards ourselves. We deserve it.