Every parent of children under 5 knows how crazy the home is during those years.
As much as you try, it’s nearly impossible to truly get actual, proper alone time with your spouse. I feel as if our room and our bed is a community center — honestly! One child goes in, the other goes out then both in the middle and we are left hanging on for dear life on the edges and trying to get the last bit of sleep.
The reality is, my husband and I rarely get time alone. Once we do get to bed, we are fast asleep within 5 minutes trying to get as much rest before Little L, who is 8 months old, wakes up.
After the children’s bedtime, we then have to get work done, cook and I feel as we don’t truly have time to unwind. Recently we made the decision to spend a weekend alone at the Ritz-Carlton and we left our 4 year old and 8 month old with my mamá. We were so desperate to have time alone that we honestly did not miss them at all!
Of course we had a great time, but it was the simple thing we enjoyed the most. Here is a list of everything we enjoyed child-free:
1. We could finish a sentence — and keep going without interruption or crying!
2. We stood next to each other and held hands! No strollers to push or a child to keep close — just us!
3. We had dinner without having to cut meat into small pieces and negotiate for everything to be eaten.
4. No arguing with anyone to get to bed — we just got in and could relax!
5. We watched REAL TV…no cartoons or repetitive songs.
6. I didn’t have to use wipes to clean hands or dirty faces.
7. We had drinks, REAL drinks and we had more than one…guilt free!
8. We could talk without having to S-P-E-L-L-I-N-G O-U-T words.
9. I could actually use the bathroom door without having my son ask “What are you doing mami, ¿caca or pipí?”
10. We slept uninterrupted then slept IN without someone trying to open our eyelids or having a child pulling our hair.
Needless to say, we had a great time without the kids. It’s so important to spend quality time with your spouse to remember the good old days and rekindle the love. We laughed and enjoyed being together uninterrupted — and we actually got to hold hands. Imagine that!