The hard thing about parenting is that you start out with no experience.
The great thing about parenting is that you definitely get better at it as you go along.
These ten mistakes are ones I made in the early days of parenting, but happily, these are ones I’ve pretty much left behind in the last four year:
#2: Assuming my second child would be like my first
They don’t look alike, they don’t really act alike, and I love them both like crazy.
#3: Thinking I had to constantly entertain my baby
With my first baby, I was always thinking “Is she bored? Should we be playing?” Now I know that babies are pretty good at being entertained by the world around them.
#4: Trying to squeeze the baby into too-small diapers
I know it’s tempting to just use up those last few diapers, but the results will not be worth it. . .
#5: Assuming the way I do it is the only right way
Early on, I was always leaving really detailed instructions if I had a babysitter. But I quickly learned that my child would go to bed without the exact routine I used. And she’d eat foods I never served.
#6: Believing a later bedtime would mean a later wakeup
I don’t know why this isn’t true, but my babies do not believe in sleeping in. In fact, they sleep BETTER when I put them to bed earlier.
#7: Assuming my baby wouldn’t be able to deal with travel and change
Of course every child is different (and so is every trip!), but generally they’ve done better than I gave them credit for.
#8 Thinking I wouldn’t care about the first birthday
About two months before my first child was born, I went to a baby birthday party and I thought, “I would never go to all this effort.”
You know where this is going. 14 months later, I was throwing a birthday party for my one year old.
For the entire three-year duration of my first child’s pacifier use, we didn’t once use a pacifier clip. Then a friend gave me one for my second child and I thought, “Why was I killing myself trying to keep track of that pacifier?”
#10: Believing I’d really keep them away from electronics
I definitely try to keep it to a minimum, but my girls both love playing games on the phone and watching the occasional show. And I’m okay with that.